Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Hospitality

Be forewarned. This is another rant, courtesy of me.

Definition:

" 1. the friendly reception and treatment of guests or strangers.
2. the quality or disposition of receiving and treating guests and strangers in a warm, friendly, generous way. "

It just floors me how little anyone values this old-fashioned virtue these days.

The world is much too full of businesses.

You see, business institutions do not value hospitality. The only reason for exercising generosity (or, rather, the appearance thereof), since it invariably costs you money, is if it gets you something. Every relationship is one of utility, and there is no more hospitality - only the base, groveling behaviour that is better known as schmoozing.

This, if nothing else, is the strongest testimony to the fact that the place I am currently employed does not aim itself at the betterment and education of humanity as its primary aim. It is, before all else, a business institution. Time and time again it has failed in upholding the Christian tenants of hospitality - tenants that are supposed to be intrinsic to the ideology it was supposedly founded to uphold. However, it is too gain-focused to have even considered these sorts of things into even the most basic University functions. Seven tickets per graduating student - that's it. No room for non-graduating students, no room for the large Catholic families of graduating students or those of family friends. I mean, we simply have to make sure we reserve enough room for all of our VIPs! After all, this University is primarily a special-interest club for old people wearing Prada, right?

This place never fails to disappoint me . . . and this infamous charade continues to defraud the world of what it actually needs, bidding it satisfy itself on the only thing it has to give - i.e., its own shallow self-importance.

Full well I know how unusual a background I have come from. However, I also know how much the laziness of the "real world" wants people like me adjust our expectations to its ineptitudes, "seeing life as it is". My first reaction is to condemn the supporters of so-called "reality" as madmen - for indeed, there is nothing more insane than merely seeing life as it is, and never how it should be.

However, what's worse, though, is that it would be one thing for the supporters of the status-quo to ignore the impossible dream. Dreamers, after all, are hard to come by - few people are willing to live life quite that fully. What's infinitely worse is that the dream is FAR from impossible. In fact, in this case, at least, a small community of much poorer, wiser people have been living this simple, uncomplicated dream called "hospitality" for over 35 years. Given that fact, I simply cannot understand why it is that people attempt to use "reality" as an excuse for blatant stupidity. Just because people are stupid doesn't mean they have to stay that way.

9 comments:

LiLosSoljr said...

i know what you mean - my "team" at the firm is 'client facilities:' we are all about pleasing the right people so that we can sign that $300 million contract deal. that's why the firm retains a full time chef and now a catering assistant and lots of pretty little HR things to make meeting run smoothly.

i think the real thing it comes down to is selfishness. so much of the tawdry shallowness that we are so sickened and tired by comes back to selfishness. it's easy to get people to be selfish and to simply act selfishly. it comes out in everything, clothes, TV, music, books, education, business, politics (in my opinion it's at the root of the "population control" push. i spent lots of time thinking about that one...).
right now it leaves me with a sad sinking feeling in the very center of my self. hope is a very difficult virtue to maintain.

Unknown said...

stupid maybe; lazy definitely. Seeing Christ in others does take work.
No room at the inn. How sad.

tasik said...

oh, owch, smack, etc.

Here I am trying in my small way to inject some semblance of "how it is" or "reality" into a department that insists on being truly Christian and generous to its own detriment and the endless frustration of everyone. A bit more of a business attitude around here would make my life a lot easier. I really could give 1.5 figs for how it should be, at least until heads are pulled from the sand to face How It Is.

Apparently generosity and business truly are incompatible, unless of course there is a line between generosity and plain incompetence that I'm missing...

LiLosSoljr said...

hey hey com'on - one of the first things we were taught at that est. was that truth is a reflection of reality is a reflection of truth. so there should be no contradiction or disjunction between How It Is (or should be) and and those ideals of Christian generosity and hospitality whose lack we have been mourning. Awareness and practicality do not mean being shallow and selfish and living up to the Christian ideal correspondingly does not mean ignoring the way the world works. It means we are given the entirely unenviable task of being "all things to all men" and being "wise as serpents and gentle as doves"...

as for the line between generosity and incompetence... i think you would have thrown up your hands at the "carelessness" of some of the saints... :)

tasik said...

that's probably true. (sheepish) my point was simply anti idealist for the sake of contrast and also to say, uh, it ain't heaven here either.

Emily said...

Well, either way, it's more heaven than this place, despite all the impracticalities and/or inefficiencies. Tasik, I can reasonably assure you that the petty, tiny little arguments of your land are NOTHING compared to what's considered "normal" out in the big-wide-yonder, and this particular place simply reeks of that sort of thing.
I have noticed, however, that being a melancholic skeptic eases the transition between that universe and this one, though, so chances are that you won't be as jarred by the affair as some (i.e., me). Expect the very worst and be mildly surprised (while remaining a healthy skepticism) if it works out better than that, no, Tasik? ;)

tasik said...

I will be VERY surprised if it works out better than that, since the entire economic system is based on How Much Can I Sneak For Myself. Working for a non-union subsidiary of Hormel for a year and a half taught me THAT. I could swear the only thing keeping some of these single moms from suicide is the thought of their kids. It's not at all funny.

I'm under no illusions about how good I've got it, and when anyone asks me whether I like my job I invariably say yes. I've worked worse stints. But this does not prevent me from lamenting loudly to whoever will listen that we can't lose touch with basic tenets of common sense. When a vehicle is stranded due to a broken kill switch in a remote corner of campus it should not take 3 hours and an act of congress....well, I digress. We may be virtuous, but we're incompetent. And yes in the larger scheme of things it doesn't matter.

Ignoramus said...

Sorry to hear it's all so bitter, Emily. Ahmoo as a whole is definitely odd, at least at the top management level--there are a lot of likable folk down lower.

Meanwhile, the word "Wyoming" keeps popping up in conversation.... But I'll honestly miss Florida. Call me crazy.

By the way, I was very sorry to miss your husband's thesis defense yesterday. Just before it began, I got a telephone call urging me home to deal with a quasi-emergency. Let's get together and talk about all this and how it went, blah de blah. We'd love to host you, but we appreciate the length of the drive. Could you propose some dates that would work for you?

Emily said...

Hmm, well, Ignoramus, my sensibilities chafe at the word "bitter", as something about the term causes me to think that perhaps some amount of my indignance is greatly exacerbated by my isolation from the gooduns down lower on the ol' "Ahmoo" totum pole. If I exerted myself and attempted to more frequently connect to them no doubt my patience wouldn't be stretched quite so thin. Now, I did attempt to bathe in the admirable wisdom of a couple of well-respected, cigar smoking professors of Ahmoo last Friday afternoon/evening, . . . and I came out thinking "Is it just me or have they forgotten how to speak English?" Hard to connect to the gooduns if they don't use words you can even remotely understand, but there will probably be more on that later. :)

Nevertheless, rest assured that my physche has been better since the unpleasant consequences of the inhospitality above-mentioned have been mitigated. How? Well, by pulling strings, of course. While foolish decisions are frequently made around here, few people are really willing to tell me no when I chase them down. ;) Hee hee. I'm scary like that.

I hope that the family emergency wasn't anything serious. :-o I'm presuming it wasn't, considering I saw you 'round about here yesterday?

I'm sure Matt would love to discuss the thesis with you sometime soon - he was rather unenthralled by the Q's he got, so . . . yeah. I wonder if Dr. W. will be able to persuade them into a different method of defending theses, because, uhm, we think this approach doesn't work so very well.

I'll send you an e-mail with some dates - we figured we'd probably be getting together with you guys after the classes were done, the grades were in, and the graduation madness was past. :)